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Wed 26 Jun 13

A minority viewpoint upon waking up to a new America

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Justice in the US isn't always perfect: see yesterday's ruling on the Voting Rights Act. We have so much yet to do. So many more people disregarded by the State. Freedom is a long march worth blistered heels and if you're not the one you're marching for, all the better. Freedom requires conscience. This image is just a symbolic way of saying that this is one battle that's been surpassed for equality in America; for many, it is still "midnight" in their struggle; full equality for women in the workplace, full reproductive rights, equality for the legal system for ethnic minorities, equality for immigrant children who've lived in and only known this country, full recognition of Indigenous People and First Nation rights to their won resources, healthcare equality... I can't stop thinking of the disparities yet to conquer. Yet that is the American story; as we encounter wrongs, we stand, and as the song goes, "we shall not be moved!"

filed under: lavender, poofy & proud blogged: 11.20 Wed, 26 Jun '13

Thu 02 Aug 12

Really? Eating a chicken snack makes you more righteous?

What deep shame and embarrassment for our society with this national "Support Chick-Fil-A" day in support of bigotry, hypocrisy, and institutionalized discrimination. When the politics of fear fans the profits of a billion dollar corporation, we've truly lost the concept of what First Amendment rights really mean. Worse, we teach that our greed and gluttony are surrogate voices for reasoned principles. If you think you can make a stand with a nugget and dipping sauce, then you may as well cast your vote this November by wearing red instead of going to a polling place.

filed under: lavender, poofy & proud blogged: 00.49 Thu, 02 Aug '12

Sat 01 Dec 07

Sexy Little Secrets

filed under: lavender, poofy & proud blogged: 11.18 Sat, 01 Dec '07

Mon 25 Jun 07

The Science of Gaydar

I once placed a personal ad in which I described myself as “gay-acting/gay-appearing,” partly as a jab at my peers who prefer to be thought of as “str8” but mostly because it’s just who I am. Maybe a better way to phrase it would have been “third-sexer,” the category advanced by the gay German sexologist Magnus Hirschfeld 100 years ago. The label fell into disrepute, but lately a number of well-known researchers in the field of sexual orientation have been reviving it based on an extensive new body of research showing that most of us, whether top or bottom, butch or femme, or somewhere in between, share a kind of physical otherness that locates us in our own quadrant of the gender matrix, more like one another than not. Whatever that otherness is seems to come from somewhere deep within us. It mostly defies our efforts to disguise it. That’s what we mean by gaydar—not the skill of the viewer so much as the telltale signs most gay people project, the set of traits that make us unmistakably one.

The late psychologist and sexologist John Money famously called these the details of our “gendermaps,” which he believed are drawn primarily by life’s experience and social conditioning. Money planted some of the earliest flags in the nature-versus-nurture war by claiming that dysfunctional parents, not inborn biology, is what produced “sissy boys,” tomboys, and other gender variants. But today, the pendulum has swung just about as far in the other direction as possible. A small constellation of researchers is specifically analyzing the traits and characteristics that, though more pronounced in some than in others, not only make us gay but also make us appear gay.

At first read, their findings seem like a string of unlinked, esoteric observations. Statistically, for instance, gay men and lesbians have about a 50 percent greater chance of being left-handed or ambidextrous than straight men or women. The relative lengths of our fingers offer another hint: The index fingers of most straight men are shorter than their ring fingers, while for most women they are closer in length, or even reversed in ratio. But some researchers have noted that gay men are likely to have finger-length ratios more in line with those of straight women, and a study of self-described “butch” lesbians showed significantly masculinized ratios. The same goes for the way we hear, the way we process spatial reasoning, and even the ring of our voices.

filed under: lavender, poofy & proud blogged: 12.26 Mon, 25 Jun '07


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